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SO CONFUSED
ok anyone out there that can help me out on this one would be amazing...
back in November my roomate had a guy comin up to visit her...he asked if he could bring on of his frineds up so that me and him could possibly hook up...i agreed... then after a week we were seein each other.....he told me that he had a lil girl and i had no problems with that... so we were going out for 5 months and then he decides that he is gettin back with the mother of the lil girl cause he was missin out on her life... but this is where it gets comfusing.... he left the mother in the first place because of all the fighting and the no emitoin that she showed towards him...... but now he is back with her and is back to the same thing constantly fighting and she doesnt show any affection towards him at all no cuddles.. no lovin.. even has his own separate blanket for the bed...... i just want if it is a good idea that he is forcing this realtionship just for Lil B or is it going to end again??? and can someone honestly have a realtionship with no affection towards eachother???? and another thing is that we have been apart for lil over a month and he has gotten back with me 3 times already....and he still goes on about how much he still cares and how i spoiled him and that there is no one that can turn him on like i can.
back in November my roomate had a guy comin up to visit her...he asked if he could bring on of his frineds up so that me and him could possibly hook up...i agreed... then after a week we were seein each other.....he told me that he had a lil girl and i had no problems with that... so we were going out for 5 months and then he decides that he is gettin back with the mother of the lil girl cause he was missin out on her life... but this is where it gets comfusing.... he left the mother in the first place because of all the fighting and the no emitoin that she showed towards him...... but now he is back with her and is back to the same thing constantly fighting and she doesnt show any affection towards him at all no cuddles.. no lovin.. even has his own separate blanket for the bed...... i just want if it is a good idea that he is forcing this realtionship just for Lil B or is it going to end again??? and can someone honestly have a realtionship with no affection towards eachother???? and another thing is that we have been apart for lil over a month and he has gotten back with me 3 times already....and he still goes on about how much he still cares and how i spoiled him and that there is no one that can turn him on like i can.
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Permalink Reply by Helen on -
Sorry, but I guess he is just using you! when it is comfortable - he is with you - when it's not he leaves you. If it's ok to you - you can continue, but if you want something serious - dump him, he is not that guy.
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Permalink Reply by Karla on -
I guess he is not that serious on you. If he cares for you, he would move on with his past relationship. He cares for his feelings more than he cares for you.
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on -
but the only reason that he is back in this realtionship is because he wasnt seein enough of Lil B as he tought he would...... but wouldnt u think that if he cared for his feelings that he would know that he doesnt deserve the shit that he has been puttin up with and that he deserves to be happy???
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Permalink Reply by Helen on
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You also deserve to be happy. Just you should decide if it's ok for you? I think he doesn't change... And he come again, and then he leave, and then come again....
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Permalink Reply by Ice on -
Do you believe that he got back with her ex is because of her Lil B? Dont you think he is still love with her and is still hoping that their relationship cold be saved?
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on
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thats ok i asked for advise and u gave me yours.... but he is never uncomfortable with me.... he said that hte only reason that we arent together is cause of Lil B..... and the only reason that we broke up is that he was going to get back with the mother cause he wasnt seein enough od Lil B aas he toought that he would
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Permalink Reply by Oksana on -
That's a very strange situation. I think there can't be relationship with no affection towards each other, and I think that sooner or later this relationship will end. But I don't understand what's pushing him there... Can he visit his child when he's divorced?
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on
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thats what i have been sayin to him that its not going to be a realtionship if u dont show affection..... the only reason that he is back with her is that he wasnt seein Lil B enough as he thought he would...... and then he aid about a week ago that he couldnt put up with the mothers shit anymore that he was going to give her one more week and if she was still bitchin at everything then he was leaving and now he is sayin that he cant leave cause Lil B is being better behaved..... but i think its just that she is gettin older and knows better cause even when we were still together i noticed that she was better......but then i think about Lil B if they are going to be fighting all the time she isnt going to be happy she is going to be just as unhappy as he is right now....shrug i just dont know......but i do know that we love each other and that i am so jealous of her every sec of the day....and when i tell him i have a guy friend comin over he gets spuer jealous
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Permalink Reply by GlamourGirl on -
I guess you need to give him some space to let him realize what he really wants. If he's priority is his little girl, then you need to accept that. I dont think their relatonship would last if that is his sole purpose of getting back with her.
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on
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I have no problem accpeting the fact that he is doing it for Lil B its just the fact they they are total opposite he loves to flirt,cuddle, hug, lovin....she doesnt and shows no affection...... and i even made him realize yesterday that he has been so unhappy, cranky, and depresed this last month....he told me that he didnt mean to take it out on me....but i made him realize that if he is going to be like this all the time that its Lil B thats going to be gettin the short end of the stick....like i said i have no problem accepting that he wants to do this for Lil B but im lookin out for Lil B if he is going to be cranky, depresed, and unhappy and fighting all the time with the mother then she isnt going to be happy cause she is going to get the short end of the stick in this situation
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Permalink Reply by iwoman21 on -
i think, you should telling him "you have to make decision ! and don't complain about your decision" a man should have strong personality, if they confusing.. how he can guide a women ?? because he always confuse. and for you, don't take your time at this problem, because there many thing is this world doesn't have explanation... so don't push your self to understand the situation, because we are only human..we can't understand many thing's. ^_^
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