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Permalink Reply by Shoreen on May 12, 2008 at 5:39pm

I think they would have to be cut from a very different cloth than the average person.
Usually when two people really love each other they want to be exclusive w their partner. Human beings are generally very family orientated and emotional when it comes to relationships. Possessive as well.
We are not like fish that just spawn and then leave.
We establish relationships based on love.
I would say the people who have open relationships are not very serious about the person they are with and it 's just a game. They can't be serious about a loving and committed relationship.

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Permalink Reply by Oksana on May 12, 2008 at 6:43pm

Maybe they want to feel some extreme:)
For example, they are together for more than 5 years everything is very stable, nothing new, so they want to spice up their life... They want to feel all those feeling of the first meeting, first kiss, etc. But at the same time they stay with the same person because they have a lot in common.

Permalink Reply by Ice on May 14, 2008 at 2:55pm

Human beings are bound to commit mistakes. There are times they forget they need to be committed to the person they love. They unintentionally cheat without knowing they are breaking a very good relationship.

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Permalink Reply by Helen on May 27, 2008 at 6:02pm

You are absolutely right... It's so easy to break your existing relationship, but it takes much more time and efforts to repair it....

Permalink Reply by GlamourGirl on May 28, 2008 at 1:40pm

Maybe it'll work for now but not for long. What kind of relationship do they have? Is it love or just a sexual affair? If you see the person as your long time partner, you wouldnt want him to cheat. Right?

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Permalink Reply by Ice on May 29, 2008 at 2:47pm

I would forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me once, but Id kill him on the second.

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Permalink Reply by Bobbie on May 31, 2008 at 12:18am

LOL, I know right! What is it, fool me once, i understand, fool me twice..how about now we just stab you in the eye with a pencil. Although, there would never be an opportunity for him to cheat after the first time. I am a no-nonsense since I hit my late twenties, and maybe when I was younger I would have allowed but now...I have to say, I have standards...

Permalink Reply by Oksana on June 1, 2008 at 8:30pm

So, Bobbie, you wouldn't forgive your boyfriend? And if it was just a sexual desire from his side, nothing more? And if it has happened only once?

Permalink Reply by Fiona on June 2, 2008 at 8:03am

Honestly I think it depends on what the woman considers a "great" relationship. Everybody would like to be in a relationship for love, but that's not always the case. A woman may consider a great relationship if there are no arguments, if their partner is ok with them going out with friends, travelling on her own, doing or NOT the house chores, etc... so for a woman who likes that type of lifestyle and a guy who never argues for getting the opposite, then she may say it's a great relationship. For me personally, there's always got to be love, care and respect to consider it a great relationship, and I'd never cheat if I had something like that, even if I felt the need to spice up my relationship I'd let him know what I want to solve it together and avoid cheating!

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Permalink Reply by Barbara Siragusa on June 10, 2008 at 10:53am

My new husband and I have had several relationships before us. I think we have learned a lot from our past mistakes, and the cheating that has been done to us. We talk about everything, we clear the air if there is a problem, so as not to build up any resentment that might drive a wedge between us. We constantly spice up our sex life either I dress up once in a while, put on some wild make up, some sexy music, high heels.....or he comes home with roses or gives me a back rub and generally we put each other first. We both realize there are temptations out there and the pitfalls to avoid. Not to say that we are perfect in any way. We are both strong willed, and can clash once in a while. We have issues with ex's and his children, my children. But in general, we are bringing our past experiences to the table.

As far as forgiving a cheater? When I found out my first husband had cheated ( I found a box of condoms in his car on Mother's Day) I was hurt and ended up forgiving but not forgetting. We have 2 children, and at the time that seemed the right thing to do. But....it ate away at me. The trust was gone. All those late night meetings he used to have, now I was constantly suspicious. It finally did end our marriage through that being the beginning of the end. So yes you can forgive and go on, but the forget part is hard to do.

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