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Are most men too easy in bed?
Hi everyone,
I've been going out with my boy friend for 6 months now and we are pretty sexually active. My problem is that 5 minutes after we get started he pops and we're done.
Worst part is that he is wanting these "quickies" all the time but I'm not getting anything out of it.
Now half the time we do it I don't even feel like it so I just go through the motions a know that work well to get the job done quicker (2-3 minutes).
I've had a few boyfriends in the past, and I can't say this case is much different from all my experiences with guys.
Is there just no challenge in making most men climax? And is it right to get it done quickly without them knowing your intentions?
Thanks,
Lizzy
I've been going out with my boy friend for 6 months now and we are pretty sexually active. My problem is that 5 minutes after we get started he pops and we're done.
Worst part is that he is wanting these "quickies" all the time but I'm not getting anything out of it.
Now half the time we do it I don't even feel like it so I just go through the motions a know that work well to get the job done quicker (2-3 minutes).
I've had a few boyfriends in the past, and I can't say this case is much different from all my experiences with guys.
Is there just no challenge in making most men climax? And is it right to get it done quickly without them knowing your intentions?
Thanks,
Lizzy
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Permalink Reply by Oksana on -
No, there are a lot of men who are not like that, who understand your needs.
I think you should talk to him about that, just do not leave the situation like that. If you want to be with him in the future you should resolve this problem or you won't be interested in sex with him...
If he won't understand this I advise you to leave him and to find another guy who is a better lover.
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Permalink Reply by Lizzy on -
Thanks :)
Hmm, see like most guys though my boy friend doesn't think there's anything wrong with the way we have sex. He wouldn't know what to think if I told him how quick he is.
LoL and I'm sure he would be really upset if I told him about how half the time I force him to finish up quicker just to get it over and done with. Which by the way, does anyone else do that? Or is that just me :-s, is that bad, or immoral? Or just smart lol
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Permalink Reply by Oksana on
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You see the deal is that men feel what you feel unconsciously.
Men love women who love sex. If you are insincere, very soon he will feel that something is wrong with your attitude and he will try to find another woman who will enjoy more.
Men often have sex not just for pleasure but they want to feel that they are men... you know... they need your reaction.
I strongly recommend you to resolve the problem, you should learn to enjoy the process and talk to him about your needs. If everything is the same, you won't have sex in some time, because he will feel that you don't want it.
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Permalink Reply by GlamourGirl on -
If you tell him how he is in bed would hurt is ego. I suggest that you tell him of what you enjoy doing in bed and that will give him an idea of what he needs to do.
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Permalink Reply by Ice on -
I agree. It's just a matter of expressing your needs the right away. And he should be sensitive enough to understand that too. If you tried telling him and didnt care about it, then I think you need to think twice about your relationship.
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Permalink Reply by Helen on -
You should never give up! Talk to him! Explain him what you need, if he is a worthyman - he will appreciate that and change his attitude! For men is very mportant to give you the pleasure - belive me, it's better to talk to him!
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Permalink Reply by GlamourGirl on
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Yeah, you need to open up and tell him what you want. Otherwise, you may just end up getting bored and looking for another guy.
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Permalink Reply by Fiona on -
Maybe you can say you fancy doing something new, so that you don't have to tell him that he sucks in bed lol... I've heard men's ego is very vulnerable when it comes to sex. So try more foreplay, ask him what he would like to spice up your sex life... tell him he turns you on very much and you want more of him, that way he won't suspect anything wrong.
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Permalink Reply by Oksana on
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Fiona, I agree with you, you are absolutely right.
Lizzy, you shouldn't tell him that your sex is not good, you should use your brain to find a way to make him do what you need:)
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Permalink Reply by Barbara Siragusa on -
You need to explain to him, that you have needs too. This is a recipe for disaster, as you will get bored one day and perhaps look for another man to satisfy you. It is ok to have a quickie once in a while. Sometimes when I am not in the mood, I will let my husband have sex with me, and we laugh because it was all one sided! But other times, he is slow and tender and takes care of my needs.
If your boyfriend is young, and pretty inexperienced, then just tell him. Guys need us to tell them a lot of things otherwise they really don't have a clue!
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